In Daniel Gulati’s article The Regrets of the Young, the top five regrets of people aged 25-35 is revealed. They include wanting to do something more useful, not wasting so much time earlier in life, traveling more, being physically fit and living in the present moment. It is an interesting article because posing the question of regret is usually saved for the elderly to reflect on their life. I would like to re-language the article just a little bit. Instead of calling them regrets, I think it would be more impactful to call them pointers to change. They are the events and decisions in life that we experienced and now because of those experiences, we know better. You have a better understanding of who you are and what you want to change in your life. I would argue that it is because of those decisions that you now have a clearer and more purposeful vision for yourself. Your youth is a time of discovery. It’s a time to figure out who we are by the choices and decisions you make which prove who you are not.
These pointers of change are gifts. They are the opportunities to change the way we live life. The feelings that we should have done better are really the motivations that we can do better. Should have’s are two scary words. They speak to the past and we have no creative power there. We have influence on our present and on our experiences in the future. Let these feelings be your guide to choosing something that is more aligned with who you are. Let your decisions today be made from this better understanding of self. In life there are no regrets just greater wisdom and understanding. Find the gratitude for all your experiences because they brought you here to this very moment. In this moment, you have all the grace and guidance needed to choose an even greater path. Choose wisely.